Me First.
What feeling comes over you when you hear the words, “me first”? What thought pops into your mind? If it’s a physical feeling of shame or guilt, accompanied by the thought, “You’re selfish”… please read...
Creating Purposeful Spaces: Art + Functionality for Highly Sensitive People
Are you at your best when your space is organized and aesthetically pleasing? My sister used to make fun of me when we’d stay at hotels because before we could do anything or go anywhere or even sit down… I first needed to find the...
3 Primal Emotional Needs of Highly Sensitive People
Highly sensitive people were once highly sensitive children who were often given the message that they are “too much” to handle. This leaves HSPs with a sense that our emotional or intellectual needs are just “too much” into adulthood....
Are You Just “Too Much” to Handle?
I have felt like a young, untrained horse at certain times throughout my life. No matter what I did, or how clearly I tried to communicate basic feelings or needs, I was just “too much” for anyone to understand or accept. At those times, I learned it was best to just keep my head down and do what I was told.
Living At The Top of The Hill
We were out on a bike ride today, and since we live at the top of a hill, it’s always tough getting home. Usually I shift gears, pedal hard, and sweat a lot to get home. My heart pounds and I gasp for air and my muscles feel like they can’t...
Do You Want To Live Healed?
“It just occurred to me that many people are actually afraid to heal because their entire identity is centered around the trauma they’ve experienced. They have no idea who they are outside of trauma, and that unknown can be terrifying.” –...
Second-Guessing Ourselves and Making Mistakes
As HSPs, second-guessing ourselves is second-nature. For any given decision, we can foresee the upside. The downside. The sideways side. The diagonal horizontagonal side. (You didn’t even know that was a side, did you?)
Emotional Needs – or Emotional Neediness?
Did I really NEED someone to come over? I felt sad and lonely, but I had everything I needed… right?
Do HSPs Like to Start Arguments – Or Are We Just Trying to Have a Conversation?
Have you ever entered into what you thought was going to be a deep and interesting conversation with someone – delving into several different angles and perspectives – only to realize the other person was becoming uncomfortable, defensive, or even thought you...
When It Feels Unsafe to Be Seen and Heard
Do you ever feel like you’re hiding the deepest, truest parts of you – in fear of someone not being able to handle it?
The Real Reason We’re SO Thirsty for Someone to Understand Us
We find people fascinating and truly enjoy knowing someone well… But at the end of the day we also have a deep desire to BE understood.
On Being Cold
I can’t stand being cold. I can’t fall asleep if my feet or nose is cold, no matter how tired I am.
What Do You Need To Handle Life Changes?
I don’t always like how my mind and body react to the over-stimulation that comes with life changes, BUT…
Powerful Men Getting Caught: An Open Letter to Kathie Lee Gifford
I am sorry for your loss, Kathie Lee. You lost the comfort of knowing your friend was a safe person…
The Angst of Black Friday… and the Joy of Cyber Monday
Ever since I can remember, shopping malls have been an energy-draining, life-sucking black hole that I dread entering.
4 Ways to Nurture an Appreciation for the Fine Arts in Our Kids
Appreciation for the fine arts is an area of my high sensitivity that I value and love to share with my son.
Need An Energy Boost? This Simple Green Smoothie Packs a Punch.
If I’m feeling a bit fatigued or a headache is coming on, I instinctively gravitate toward my Magic Bullet…
HSPs Notice a Lot, But Here’s What We Miss…
You probably notice all sorts of little things that other people miss. But have you ever missed the forest for the trees?
The Willow Tree, A Children’s Story
I want my son to know that it’s okay to be sad. Although I am highly empathic, I’ve realized lately what a poor job I’ve done of sharing my true feelings with him in the past.